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For many, first impressions matter when meeting a potential romantic partner, as they can set the tone for the kind of relationship you\u2019ll have. That was the case for Whitney (@whitthemua), who went on a first date at a fancy restaurant but reconsidered going through with it after seeing what her date was wearing and claimed that it disrespected her.<\/p>\n
\u201cTell me if I\u2019m wrong or tell me if I\u2019m reaching,\u201d Whitney said in a video on TikTok, which has gained over 1.6 million views. Whitney described herself as someone who liked to look presentable whenever she went outside, so when a man asked her to go for drinks and dinner after work at Earls Kitchen + Bar in Plano, Texas, an upscale restaurant, she expected her date to dress appropriately.<\/p>\n
\u201cAgain, I\u2019m looking presentable,\u201d Whitney said, adding that she wore a black pleated skirt, black top, and heels to the date. \u201cI got my makeup bag with me. Kinda touch up my lip combo. I\u2019m looking presentable, like, I can go and have a drink somewhere.\u201d<\/p>\n
She ditches him when she sees his slides and white socks on the date <\/p>\n
Whitney said the man knew where they were dining, as he was the one who supposedly chose the place when he asked her out. But when she arrived at the restaurant\u2019s parking lot, she immediately noticed her date\u2019s seemingly less-than-presentable outfit.<\/p>\n
According to Whitney, her date\u2019s outfit was a stark contrast to hers. While Whitney looked professional after coming straight from work, her date allegedly showed up in a muscle shirt, basketball shorts, and slides with white socks. \u201cHe\u2019s a handsome dude, but f*** all that,\u201d Whitney said.<\/p>\n
Whitney seemingly couldn\u2019t believe what she was seeing and remained stuck inside her car. She clarified that while she didn\u2019t expect him to be \u201call dolled up in a ball gown,\u201d she still expected him to look decent, given the type of place they were heading to. \u201cIf you know that you are going to a certain place and you\u2019re gonna go meet a woman, [\u2026] you need to put some clothes on,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n
Whitney said she called the man and confronted him about his outfit, although the man appeared to be clueless about his faults. Before she hung up on him, she told him that she was heading home instead, and later ignored his multiple calls and texts.<\/p>\n
The man allegedly told Whitney she was rude for ditching him. Whitney, however, argued that he was the one being disrespectful for inviting her out but making little effort with his appearance. \u201cYou thought that was okay. [\u2026] To me, [it] lets me know that you don\u2019t respect me enough to even put some clothes on,\u201d Whitney said.<\/p>\n
She doesn\u2019t plan to lower her standards <\/p>\n
Reflecting on the would-be date, Whitney wondered if her standards were too high. But she rationalized that his outfit set the tone for how she would be treated, and she refused to accept the bare minimum in a relationship.<\/p>\n
Some viewers agreed that Whitney made the right decision by calling off the date and were dumbfounded that the man would choose such an outfit when meeting someone he was supposedly interested in romantically. \u201cHow someone shows up matters to you. how someone appears in public matters to you. You didn\u2019t overreact, he is not what you want,\u201d one viewer wrote.<\/p>\n
Another chimed in, saying, \u201cI feel you, because why don\u2019t you care about impressing me??\u201d One viewer pointed out how the outfit was for the wrong occasion. \u201cThat\u2019s workout clothes. That\u2019s playing ball with some friends clothes. That\u2019s some hanging out at the house clothes,\u201d the viewer said.<\/p>\n
Others, however, felt Whitney handled the incident poorly. \u201cI think you could have handled it differently. Set a standard, but don\u2019t be rude. You were just as wrong as he was,\u201d a viewer wrote. A second added, \u201cYes. You could have explained that to him. He took the time out to invite you to dinner, was respectful, you judge him based off of his clothes which could easily be changed. What happened to judging people based off their character?\u201d<\/p>\n
While viewers remained divided, Whitney stands by her decision to end whatever was brewing between her and the man. She said she had zero \u201ctolerance for no bulls***\u201d and doesn\u2019t have any plans to change her standards any time soon.<\/p>\n
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