They always want to talk in person. They told me I would be getting a raise and promotion but kept pushing it back. When I finally stood my ground and asked for all things to be in writing, this was their response.
by RealRoyal
27 Comments
bourguignon7
Time to go! Start looking for something else.
ellieswebshooter
seems like a hothead. im sorry
OwlOfFortune
One tip would be even if they want to talk in person, take notes and follow up with them over text saying that it’s to clarify what the meeting was about. I would still find somewhere else, this owner sounds like they’re going to make things difficult for you.
Chazegg88
Run brother as fast as you can
Sabatier00
“You disrespected me”. I’m pretty sure what they mean is “How dare you try to put me in a position where I can’t fuck you over later. I’m a slimy piece of shit and I don’t like getting called out.”
WiteXDan
“I know you have disrespected me” is such a wild thing to say
Burly_Moustache
Start looking for a new kitchen NOW.
Useful-Lake9539
Clearly didn’t want repercussions for what was to be discussed. I hope your last 2 weeks go smooth
512recover
How to lose a job in one day
ButtholeAnomaly
This might be rude, but is English their first language?
“You’re doing unprofessional here…”
“You have disrespected to me by doing like this.”
They might need someone to sit them down and tell them how things work here.
BaphometHS
Fucking ruuuun. Big red flags.
I had many employees change their scheduling around while running a kitchen. It isn’t fucking complicated. Yikes.
returntoglory9
Quit and share these with management on your way out the door
error785
Fuck that guy. The more he resists putting something in writing the more sus he becomes. I already knew he wouldn’t cave on the first panel.
KickBakZach
I would quit. He is clearly lazy and unprofessional to even communicate in a professional manner.
KickflipMcNasty
I would not go back after this
sgtshootsalot
The only reason they don’t want it in writing is so it can’t be held against them.
Dassman88
Run…
Hungry_Kick_7881
Here’s my fun work around for this. If they insist on an in person conversation. Take notes and send an email afterwards that summarizes the conversation and its important parts. Follow up with, I just wanted to provide a summary of what we discussed today. Please let me know if there’s anything you disagree with. Puts it on them to respond if they disagree.
Oyxopolis
In my branch, it’s normal to talk to your boss or manager in person and then get confirmation on paper. I would assume refusing to talk in person is the fastest self-nuke imaginable, so why take that route? If I were my manager and you refused to meet in person, there would be obvious consequences.
ChefGuru
I think that you pushed too hard with refusing to talk, and demanding the conversation in text, only.
Agree to talk, but make it clear that any changes discussed must be put down in writing before anything is implemented. That gives you both a chance to compromise on things, and finalize whatever alterations you come up with during the discussion.
If i told an employee that i wanted to talk to him in my office, and he responded “No. Text me or fuck off” then I’d also take that as a sign of disrespect.
There’s nothing wrong with getting promises and changes in writing, but you also can’t dictate to your boss that you’re going to refuse to have a meeting with him in person because you’d rather it be in text.
SHoliday335
I’m sorry, but having a meeting face to face is the professional and proper way to discuss work issues. Doing things by text is not professional if the discussion is of any serious nature.
That doesn’t mean they will or should or can “screw you over.” You can take notes and write down whatever you discuss but most professional conversations should be done face to face.
Dracekidjr
Depending on your state, record closed door conversations.
RealRoyal
I just want to add that I have had many conversations with this person face to face. For the last three months they have been pushing back a raise and promotion. I left a full time job to come to this place because I was told by the owner I would be made a manager and my salary would be raised within ONE month. On top of all of this they hired their family memeber and are giving them full time hours while cutting shifts from staff that have been here for years.
LucyBear318
Just let them fire you. Go on vacation.
Rs3pvmguy1212
>talking in person about work things is unprofessional
This is crazy. It’s fine if you want things in writing but this is just made up
Spacebarpunk
I don’t get why you’re having to text them paragraphs and over explaining. If you said communication happens through text then keep it like that. If not record conversations if you’re in a one party state. Makes you look weak af texting so much.
taxon2
I’m not in your industry. One suggestion would be to meet with them and follow up with an email confirming what was discussed. Not detailed minutes from the meeting, just the important points.
27 Comments
Time to go! Start looking for something else.
seems like a hothead. im sorry
One tip would be even if they want to talk in person, take notes and follow up with them over text saying that it’s to clarify what the meeting was about. I would still find somewhere else, this owner sounds like they’re going to make things difficult for you.
Run brother as fast as you can
“You disrespected me”. I’m pretty sure what they mean is “How dare you try to put me in a position where I can’t fuck you over later. I’m a slimy piece of shit and I don’t like getting called out.”
“I know you have disrespected me” is such a wild thing to say
Start looking for a new kitchen NOW.
Clearly didn’t want repercussions for what was to be discussed. I hope your last 2 weeks go smooth
How to lose a job in one day
This might be rude, but is English their first language?
“You’re doing unprofessional here…”
“You have disrespected to me by doing like this.”
They might need someone to sit them down and tell them how things work here.
Fucking ruuuun. Big red flags.
I had many employees change their scheduling around while running a kitchen. It isn’t fucking complicated. Yikes.
Quit and share these with management on your way out the door
Fuck that guy. The more he resists putting something in writing the more sus he becomes. I already knew he wouldn’t cave on the first panel.
I would quit. He is clearly lazy and unprofessional to even communicate in a professional manner.
I would not go back after this
The only reason they don’t want it in writing is so it can’t be held against them.
Run…
Here’s my fun work around for this. If they insist on an in person conversation. Take notes and send an email afterwards that summarizes the conversation and its important parts. Follow up with, I just wanted to provide a summary of what we discussed today. Please let me know if there’s anything you disagree with. Puts it on them to respond if they disagree.
In my branch, it’s normal to talk to your boss or manager in person and then get confirmation on paper. I would assume refusing to talk in person is the fastest self-nuke imaginable, so why take that route? If I were my manager and you refused to meet in person, there would be obvious consequences.
I think that you pushed too hard with refusing to talk, and demanding the conversation in text, only.
Agree to talk, but make it clear that any changes discussed must be put down in writing before anything is implemented. That gives you both a chance to compromise on things, and finalize whatever alterations you come up with during the discussion.
If i told an employee that i wanted to talk to him in my office, and he responded “No. Text me or fuck off” then I’d also take that as a sign of disrespect.
There’s nothing wrong with getting promises and changes in writing, but you also can’t dictate to your boss that you’re going to refuse to have a meeting with him in person because you’d rather it be in text.
I’m sorry, but having a meeting face to face is the professional and proper way to discuss work issues. Doing things by text is not professional if the discussion is of any serious nature.
That doesn’t mean they will or should or can “screw you over.” You can take notes and write down whatever you discuss but most professional conversations should be done face to face.
Depending on your state, record closed door conversations.
I just want to add that I have had many conversations with this person face to face. For the last three months they have been pushing back a raise and promotion. I left a full time job to come to this place because I was told by the owner I would be made a manager and my salary would be raised within ONE month. On top of all of this they hired their family memeber and are giving them full time hours while cutting shifts from staff that have been here for years.
Just let them fire you. Go on vacation.
>talking in person about work things is unprofessional
This is crazy. It’s fine if you want things in writing but this is just made up
I don’t get why you’re having to text them paragraphs and over explaining. If you said communication happens through text then keep it like that. If not record conversations if you’re in a one party state. Makes you look weak af texting so much.
I’m not in your industry. One suggestion would be to meet with them and follow up with an email confirming what was discussed. Not detailed minutes from the meeting, just the important points.