I’ve been trying to perfect a homemade cinnamon pie over the last week and I finally thought I was getting somewhere. The first two attempts, I totally underbaked the crust and the bottom was raw. This time, I blind baked the crust longer and nailed the texture, but ended up overbaking the top a little so it looks darker than usual.
I was actually proud of this one. The flavor was warm, spiced, and the texture was smooth. Definitely not perfect, but progress.
I gave my partner a slice to try and he took one bite, made a face, and threw it straight into the trash. He said it “looked burnt” even though it didn’t taste burnt. No suggestions, no kindness…just tossed it. I know not everyone has to like everything I bake, but that reaction honestly stung. It takes a lot to hurt my feelings and I’m feeling incredibly discouraged. I never thought I’d cry over a pie, but here I am…lol
How do you handle harsh or dismissive reactions to something you put effort into? Do you keep baking for people like that, or do you just find people who actually appreciate homemade food?
by NoTuneJune
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I would find a nicer partner who appreciates being my taste tester. You worked hard on it! That’s just mean for no reason. Wish I could try the cinnamon pie!
Your partner is an asshole. That pie looks great, and im sure it tasted great, too. Next time, make a cream pie just to throw in his face. Keep up the good work, be proud of yourself!!!
Keep working on your recipe and work on dumping the partner.
He was a jerk and should have handled it with far more respect than he did. Given that, you should still be proud of your accomplishments. I say, screw him and keep going!
I only share my baked goods with people who appreciate them/me (last week I walked 2 blocks at 8pm to deliver a dessert to someone I knew would love it – it felt awesome!!)
I’d find a new partner instead of finding a way to handle that. That’s a childish and ridiculous reaction… I would absolutely never react that way to something my partner made and let me try.
What an awful reaction to your hard work and something you were (and should be!) clearly very proud of yourself for doing. I hope you know that his reaction has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him and I hope you just keep right on baking because it makes YOU happy. Hopefully he apologizes and this isn’t a pattern of behavior- if it is, I hope you are alright and have friends and family who care about you and want to try your baking 💜
Sounds like your partner sucks
Sounds like you should dump them
I would not bake for my partner if they couldn’t give me constructive criticism. I’d certainly let him know his response was childish – like legit something a small child would do, be told they were wrong and why, and how to handle a future moment where they encountered a food they didn’t care for.
I also probably wouldn’t be with my partner at all if they reacted so rudely to simply not liking a bite of pie.
People have a right to their opinions. But they, and especially the ones closest to you, also should have manners. I’m sorry that happened to you, and I wish you luck on your future tests. I’ve never had a cinnamon pie, and it sounds delightful!
Make him the pie from “the help” 🤪
You are supposed to be proud and supportive of the people you “love.” Get rid of this partner immediately, he has shown what he thinks of you and your passions.
I mean even if it is a little burned, no need to be so rude about it, he could have tasted the filling still. Your efforts are valid, it’s great that you keep making it to make it better each time.
I’m sure your next one will be really nice, and I dont just mean the pie!
Erhh, sorry but what the Hell? That’s not a normal or respectful way to speak to your significant other at all. Super not cool.
Typically when we’re not a fan of something, we talk about what aspects we’d do differently for next time. We’re always kind to each other about it, though.
THROW THE WHOLE PERSON AWAY
My husband hates cinnamon but I can say with confidence that he would have taken at least a bite to give me honest but encouraging feedback. I’ve been really into making homemade syrups for my coffee in the morning, and even though he also hates coffee he will still take a sip and be like “if I liked coffee, I would really like that!” 😆
It sounds like your partner is being an ass, whether intentionally or unintentionally, so I would sit him down and have a talk about hurtful you found his response. If he doesn’t apologize and do better, then that’s your answer. Lose the partner and keep practicing the pie.
A PARTNER did this?
I wouldn’t accept this behavior from a coworker, much less a partner.
Oh honey, just throw the whole thing out. (The man, not the pie.)
Genuinely want to say this because people are not emphasizing it enough, you *CANNOT* be with someone like that for your sake. Please please please, find someone else!!! there’s a lot of people out there. You seem like an amazing person and a great baker too— you deserve someone who would appreciate that about you. At the very least sit him down and if he won’t listen, leave.
Start over!
…with a different partner
Straight to the trash for your partner. He sounds awful. Even if he didn’t like it, his behavior is abhorrent.
Its not about the pie. He was dismissive of your feelings and you should talk to him about how his actions hurt you. Im sorry he did that but dont be discouraged to keep baking darl. It is a joy for you 🙂
You tell them to go f*ck themselves
“It takes a lot to hurt my feelings”. I think you are taking a lot and you shouldn’t be. You deserve far better.
Your husband is a jerk.