Been arguing with my wife more than usual lately. I knew I screwed up. Too many meetings, too little awareness, plus her work’s been stressful too. I wanted to make it right but yeah saying SORRY again wasn’t going to cut it. Then I noticed she’d been watching espresso videos nonstop. In my infinite wisdom, I decided an espresso machine was my best apology strategy.
After went through many discussions, I settled on Casabrews 5418 Pro. When she first opened it, she barely reacted. I thought I misread the whole thing.
But this morning she dragged me out of bed and invited me to make coffee. We’re both terrible at it. Shots were off and the latte was…optimistic. But at some point she laughed and said something like “We’re both new at this. Marriage too. We don’t get it right on the first try, we just keep practicing.” That got to me…in a good way. Yeah coffee’s a work in progress. Communication too. But I’m starting to love these quiet mornings.
by Massive_Debt_6102
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Good on you for trying to make it right with your wife. Wise words on her part. I think you’re on a good path. Gestures can always supplement words, but never replace them. Keep the espresso and the communication flowing.
Well done man! This is genuinely wholesome. Early shots being off is totally normal. Holding 5418 pro as a first machine, I suggest keep it simple for now: start around a 1:2 ratio, stick to medium or medium-dark roasts, and focus on repeating the same dose and routine each morning. Consistency first, tweaks later. Wishing you lots of sweet mornings ahead.
This is lovely!! Reading this made me want to lightly slap the man next to me. In a loving way.
Love this
You didn’t mess up. This is a beautiful blob
>We’re both new at this. Marriage too. We don’t get it right on the first try, we just keep practicing.
Yep, happened to me too. I’m now on wife #2, working towards wife #3. One day I’ll have things dialed in.
Nothing better than making your own latte in the morning from the comfort of your own home!
Great job paying attention…now don’t stop paying attention and I’m sure you will have many happy years together. Life will always get crazy sometimes, but you both need to try to stay present with each other. This is an amazing display of that and will be a daily ritual for you both to slow down a bit and just enjoy each other’s company while you explore something new together
I love this!!!
Latte will tear us apart
She’s a keeper
why am i crying over my latte rn
Do you have a kettle? Start it at the same time you turn your machine on. You don’t want to have one component of the shot fully warmed up and the other going in cold, ruining the outcome.
Douse the portafilter in that hot water. Show it as much attention as you do the beans. It’ll cut down on warm-up time and lead to more consistent outcomes. Not everyone has 30 minutes to get everything warmed up. Sometimes getting your ducks in a row will help with consistency.
That’s a metaphor, but yeah – consistent application and preparation makes for better shots and drinks. Cheers to your drinks together. I wish my wife loved coffee like I do. But my yums don’t have to be hers. I just have to keep her stocked up on DR Pepper Zero..
Flat White!
There’s a (Buddhist) I think sentiment which is “Practice is perfect”. It’s not the usual practice makes perfect, but the idea is that continually striving to be better and get things as best as you can is a state of perfection. I believe this is true of both marriage and espresso.
Kinda cringey comparing espresso to marriage, but sometimes a shot/drink comes out perfectly, you repeat the same things and something might be a little bit off. You figure out what, and you adjust for it. Marriage is the exact same; as long as both people want to be on that same path to trying to be even 1% better every day, then you’re on track. Complacency is the enemy, I’ve been guilty of thinking that I’m ‘there’ or we’ll always be good because we’re married, but that’s such a wrong attitude. Marriage requires maintenance of the relationship, just like everything in life requires maintenance.
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Remember; peace is the paste that fills our human imperfections, seek peace and good coffee shots. Good luck with both
Wym… are you serious? Don’t play with me right now. “It’s gonna rain tomorrow”
Just a tip, you’ll need an espresso grinder soon or get pre-ground coffee. Based on what I can see to the right, that’s super inconsistent grinds and way too course
This is the beginning of a good marriage. It’s hard! It’s work! It’s worth it!
I felt this in my nuggets :..)
Grind her finer