Do Sad Friends Really Need Help? | How to help your sad friends

Stop asking your sad friends how they are doing and just be their friend.

If you have a friend going through a tough time and don’t know how to talk to them, this video is for you. Each person is different and there is never a guide on what to say or what not to say because at the end of the day you need to just be there.

My name is Joey Kidney and I love to do two things, share advice I have learned over the years to help and I love to cook. So I figured why not do both.

Pasta E Ceci
INGREDIENTS
– 4 tbs olive oil
– 1 onion (chopped)
– 1 carrot (chopped)
– 1 clove garlic (minced)
– 1 sprig rosemary
– 1 tsp salt
– 1 can Italian seasoned diced tomatoes
– 2 cups vegetable broth
– 1 can chickpeas (undrained)
– 1 bay leaf
– 1/8” red pepper flakes
– 1 cup uncooked pasta
– Basil

1. Heat 3 tablespoons oil in large saucepan over medium-high heat. Add onion and carrot; cook 10 minutes or until vegetables are softened, stirring occasionally.

2. Add garlic, rosemary and 1 teaspoon salt; cook and stir 1 minute. Stir in tomatoes, broth, chickpeas, with liquid bay leaf and red pepper flakes. Transfer 1 cup mixture to food processor or blender; process until smooth. Return mixture to pot; bring to boil.

3. Stir in pasta. Reduce heat to medium; cook 12-15 minutes or until pasta is tender. Remove and discard rosemary and bay leaf. Taste and season with additional salt and pepper.

4. Garnish with basil and cheese.

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stop asking your friends how they’re doing okay I know that’s that’s har but that’s like if somebody asked you how are you and your response is good you it’s a nice gesture but it’s not vulnerable and it’s honestly just like a waste of time okay I feel like we’re off to a really harsh start hello I’m Joey and I’m going to be making my favorite soup pasta a chii and well while I’m doing this you’re going to stop asking your sad friends if they’re sad cuz like essentially that’s all you’re doing cuz of course they’re sad otherwise you wouldn’t need to ask them and I know you think it’s a nice gesture but like is it is it really because I feel like in those situations you already know the answer I mean you might be asking them because you feel like they need your help and you’re in a position to ask because well you’re doing fine and I don’t think there’s necessarily bad intentions there but I think there could be a lack of connection and doing that might put you in a position where you’re placing yourself above them like you’re better than them you see that onions cut no tears ask me how I’m doing one clove garlic oh I need a carrot because when we get into the deep end that like is depression there’s no walking into the pool there’s no getting into the deep end slowly you just need to fully know how to swim because coping with depression is honestly like treading water and when you’re in the pool treading water and then somebody comes up to you and asks you how you’re doing or if you’re getting tired duh the answer of course is yeah okay let’s get this started two shots of vodka I read this one article a while back about a boy that was going to do something at school that he would uh regret the next day which I know is very dark but hear me out he was getting all prepped and planned for the next day and then he got a text from a classmate now the classmate didn’t know what was going on but he knew that this boy was going through something he knew that he was sad and the text was do you want to come over and play video games I know you’re thinking what does that have to do with what the boy was going to do at school it doesn’t that’s kind of the whole point probably shouldn’t be waving around a knife while talking about this don’t drop anything don’t drop anything don’t drop anything and then in the article it’s stated that it was a Tuesday what does the date have anything to do with nothing that’s the point again I know this took a dark turn but I actually really love the Simplicity of it all there was no hierarchy or there was no I’m better than you it was just a simple text hey do you want to play video games on a freaking Tuesday night and that saved a lot of lives I feel like if I’m ever having a bad day until some asked me how I’m doing I almost get mad and I feel really guilty about that but it’s just that throughout the entire day I’m dealing with something inside my own head and obviously I know that I’m going through something but the other person might not but I feel like I go through my quiet phases like I feel like this is very common with men because I feel like this is the only person I’ve ever talked to it about and I I feel like all the the girl friends that I have they are all very open about how they’re feeling but guys are just a little bit more caved in but every single day between the hours of 2 and 5:00 p.m. I need one hour where I’m just like silent because I’m dealing with the stuff that’s in my own head and during that time if somebody asks me you know how are you doing like you look sad or you look like you’re going through something or anything like that that just kind of assumes it’s hard well you know after I have those 1 hour little sessions to myself I’m really able to decompress and come back and breathe again it’s just my own way of asking if I want to play video games on a Tuesday without involving anyone else but the times where I have the the best connections with friends when I’m kind of like having one of those episodes is when they just talk about like random stuff and I know that might seem like ingenuine or that they don’t care but that’s kind of my favorite part like I’ve spent the entire day caring about myself and I’m almost exhausted that them just kind of asking me to cook asking me to play video games it’s just really refreshing in the moment it’s my favorite recipe because it requires like minimal effort in youo but so back to you if you have a friend that is going through a really hard time I’m not saying to just ignore their feelings you can ask them how they’re doing but maybe go a little bit more in depth than just kind of like asking just because you feel like you have to being a friend is just about being honest and and actually caring and wanting to know I’m not saying it like it’s easy but friendships are the most valuable type of relationship that you have because they’re not getting anything out of it other than just being your friend there’s no sexual reward or anything like that they ask because they care or they’re asking because they think they’re better than you and they’re using you as a little stepping stone for their ego but that’s a different topic this going to be loud okay maybe this requires a little bit more than minimal effort oh no no no no no we might not have the pasta H mixture is always nice in the past it goes now we wait 15 minutes and it’s going to be good [Music] [Music] good it’s pretty good and so I guess where I’m going with this is that instead of asking your friends how are you good you just treat them like a Tuesday cuz at the end of the day all you have to do is be their friend and that just requires you to stay you see what I did there well that was good